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Fighting Rules And Guidelines- Arguements Can End Nicely

By: Debbie Allen

Disagreements will come up in any relationship. Some may go unspoken and ignored but nonetheless, the disagreement will be there. With some couples a disagreement can lead to name calling, accusations and other negative tactics. Such behavior will only make the problem worse and the situation will escalate.

Believe it or not, there are healthy ways to disagree, argue and fight. To begin, never ever resort to name calling. Besides the fact that it is childish and does not help the situation it can result in humiliation and hurt feelings. Always remember that once the words are out there you will deal with the consequences and your partner is not likely to soon forget being called a name.

An effective way to prevent yourself from saying things you should not say is to simply walk away. By removing yourself from the situation you buy yourself time to get your thoughts together. You will have time to get over your initial anger or shock and move on to more constructive ideas.

Problems are always easier to solve when both parties are calm and in complete control of themselves. Bringing up problems from the past that have nothing to do with the current problem is another big mistake. Problems should be dealt with as they come up and if an issue has been resolved and put to rest so to speak then it should be left in that place. It should not be used as a weapon.

Learn to work through your problems as quickly as you can. Then remember that the issue has been resolved, forgiveness and understanding was the result, and then you should move on.

The relationship belongs to both of you and both of you must work at it. Never believe for a moment that one person can make a relationship work. It takes two!

When you disagree about something you need to remain as calm as possible. Raising your voice or yelling will not help. In reality it is easier to get someone to pay attention to you when you speak in a softer tone. Not only is it important that your spouse or partner knows how you feel but it is just as important that you know how they feel.

You must listen. In some cases you may need to listen for the real message behind the words. Hurt feelings are often expressed as anger. Learn to recognize that. Dealing with the real issue is often easier than dealing with the outward appearance of things.

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